I never get woken up at 6am on a Sunday by someone shoving a Barbie into my face, I never have to wrestle a screaming toddler into a car seat and I haven’t done a school run in years. Not a proper one where I have to stand awkwardly on the playground pretending I don’t care that the other parents don’t talk to me.

I was about to say I don’t have to worry about whether I cut sandwiches into triangles or squares, but then I remembered that Belle doesn’t like it when I cut grilled wraps at odd angles to the grill lines, so perhaps that one is still a thing.

When I found out that I was a finalist again this year in the Vuelio Blog Awards, in the ‘Best Parent Blog’ category, I felt like a bit of a fraud. My ‘children’ are 23 and 16, I thought to myself, does that really count any more? I checked on what day the judging was going to be taking place and made sure I had a recent post with the word ‘parent’ in the title, as though that would be the thing that proved it.

On the night of the awards, I packed my sequinned jumpsuit and set off for the train station, but had to turn back because Belle needed me at home. There was some crying. We watched the awards unfold on Twitter instead and there it was:

It felt ironic really. All that worrying over whether I still really counted as a parent, and then I couldn’t collect the award because I was at home, parenting. View Post


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money and happiness

Primarily, you want to keep your credit score high so that lenders can offer low rates when you get a loan from them.

Nevertheless, what makes a good credit score? Well, lenders usually rank your score from 350 to 800. Just know that your score ranges from within those two numbers. However, most lenders will only qualify you for a loan if you have a 700 point score, or higher.

With that score, you are sure that you will receive lower interest rates since they will see you as less of a risk.

If you have been looking for ways to better your credit score, what are some of the things that you can to improve the score significantly? Here are some practical ways to do that, exactly.

  1. Do not be late in paying your bills

The best way to make institutions trust you is to start paying your bills on time. Stay true to your loan, and next time you want another one, the lenders will not hesitate.

Set a reminder on the due date, which should be monthly of course. You can also ask your lender to send you an automatic email the day before the payment date. Most of the online banks will not hesitate to do that; remember that they need the money.

You may require the reminders especially if you have a tight schedule.

  1. Ask for help from a credit repairer

Note that the credit repair companies work. Those that have bad credit, and are finding it difficult to repair the score all by themselves, then settle for these companies.

As much as they work, you have to be careful to avoid falling into the hands of a scammer. Many people, especially the desperate ones, fall into the hands of these companies; hence, they lose much of their money, which is something they could avoid at the first place.

If you are looking for the best firm to go to, here is a list of Best Credit Repair Companies of 2018 – Credit Repair Reviews.

  1. Trash credit cards that you no longer need

Once you acquire a credit card, it is often possible to misuse it in purchasing unnecessary things. However, a credit card should provide convenience when you need to buy something quick.

If you have too many credit cards it means that you are just adding up loan balances for yourself. Close any card that you do not need, and stick to the old ones. Use your credit report to fix problems with them, and you are sure that your scores will rise.

Note that you have to keep the older ones. That is because you will require your credit history when calculating the score.

  1. Fix credit card spending habits

Note that we are not telling you to stop using your card, no. You have to continue using your credit card for improving your credit utilization ratio.

If you are always an impulse buyer, then avoid buying those unnecessary items with your credit card. Use it to run usual errands since your credit card gives you the freedom to use money, which you have to keep at bay; otherwise, your loans will pile up, and it will be difficult to pay them.


If you are in a situation that will force you to skip your monthly payments, be sure to alert the bank. Let them know of that issue, or that you lost your job; therefore, they should wait upon you to look for other alternatives. Trust me; they will do precisely that.

Get a credit report and note where the bank notes that you made late payments. Some can be mistakes by the bank, which is something that you can negotiate with them.

A guest post from my 23 year old daughter Bee

I’m terrible with my finances. I usually try not to think about them in the long run if I can help it and usually live day by day when it comes to financial planning. I don’t have a lot of money coming in, so I’ve never felt like there was much point in learning what financial lingo means or what I should be doing to think about my long term options.

Money making ideas

I took the ‘how well do you know your finances?’ quiz on the Sunny website and was surprised to get 4 out of 7 right! I thought I would know absolutely nothing, but I did learn a few things too. Maths has never been my strong point so those were the questions I failed on, mainly because I didn’t really try. But I was really surprised to find that with loans that mean you are able to pay back whenever you want, it doesn’t have to get unmanageable or expensive.

Whenever I’ve seen loans advertised before that say 1000% interest or something similar, I’ve always thought you’d be paying back thousands of pounds and it just wasn’t worth it, but actually as long as you pay it back promptly, a £500 loan could end up costing you as little as £700, which is really manageable if you’re just between jobs and waiting for the next pay day or need to make an emergency payment for car repair or something like that.

Another thing that I didn’t realise was all the things that can impact your credit score. I knew that things like being on the electoral register and having debt could affect it, but I didn’t realise that in most circumstances even when you just apply for credit it can affect your score if you get turned down, which means every time I’ve chanced my arm at extending my overdraft to afford an extra clothes shop or grocery trip could mean that my score has got worse because of it.

Having learnt lots of new information, it’s inspired me to become even wiser on the subject and start to think about my financial future whether I have any money at the moment or not. It’s always good to have a plan. According to the quiz, 39% of the UK working population have less than £500 in savings. Honestly I thought it would be a higher figure because I don’t know anyone my age who has savings, but I guess it shows that if you just put a bit aside each month, £500 can soon add up giving you a nice little safety net should you need to make any rainy day payments or you fall behind on bills. Once I’ve paid off my overdraft I’m definitely going to start putting a percentage of whatever pay check I have into my online savings account, even if I’m not saving for anything in particular. Always having to deal day by day with money issues it would give me such peace of mind to know I had even a few hundred pounds put back.

What are your top tips for saving money? What’s the best piece of financial advice you’ve ever received?

In association with Wayfair

What does Christmas day look like in your house?

Ours has always started with Christmas stockings. Bee and Belle will both come into my bed, (via FaceTime last year when Bee was in England and we were in Ireland), and they will take turns to open a present. Stockings are a mixture of fun things and useful stuff – always socks, often something with a flamingo theme for Bee, just to annoy her.

This year I dared to suggest that as Bee was 23 now, perhaps she didn’t need a stocking any more?

‘I’m just going to pretend you didn’t say that,’ she said. And that was the end of that.

After stockings, we go downstairs for the obligatory festive Bucks Fizz, and to loll about for a while on the sofa while people take turns to shower and get dressed and smaller members of the family organise presents from the tree into piles. ‘You’re sitting there Gran, next to your pile.’

As a family we give a lot of presents, but this year seems to be a bit different. My sister and her family have moved this year into a much smaller house, so they don’t physically have the space for anymore STUFF and that seems to have rubbed off onto the rest of us. There are so many THINGS already in the world, do we really all need a dozen more each?

No, of course not.

The secret really is quality rather than quantity – taking the time to choose one or two things that you know someone will love, rather than just panic buying a load of tat. It’s easier said than done sometimes though, hard to know what people will actually LIKE.

If you’re looking for some inspiration, Wayfair has put together some Christmas gift lists, aimed at very specific groups of people. Looking for a gift for a pet lover? There’s a list for that. Want to splash out on something luxurious for someone special? There’s a list for that. Need to shop for a fussy millennial? Try the millennials gift list.

Wayfair asked me to have a look at the millennial gift list in particular to pick out a few of my favourite things. I’m not technically a millennial myself, but Bee comes in at one end of the generation and my sister at the other, so it’s always handy to have some inspiration. They may be known as the snowflake generation, but that doesn’t mean they’re easy to buy Christmas gifts for.

OBVIOUSLY the first thing I was drawn to was this Cat Whisperer print from Gemma Correll:

gemma correll print View Post

Image: Pexels

Since the kids came into your life, you probably have less time for yourself. I’m guessing that’s pasta sauce making a huge stain on your shirt right now. But it’s nothing compared to the joy you feel, you say. It can be fun and fulfilling to raise a family. No one’s arguing with you on that one.

But let’s be honest here for a moment, you need to make room for some me time. You don’t want to turn into momzilla because of all the pent-up stress eating away at you. Giving yourself the space to grow is important. This reinvigorates your spirit and gusto for life. All that great energy will flow from you to your family. Trust me.

Bring out that personality and let it shine. Here are things that will inspire you to never stop discovering yourself and your thirst for adventure!

Learn something new

Find a new hobby or maybe pick up the one you never got around to finishing. Learning new things will develop skills you never thought you had or could do.

Travel solo

It’s not just a fad. Travelling alone can test you and allow you to get to know yourself again. Create memories. It doesn’t have to be overseas. A road trip is a great solo trip idea.

Watch movies solo

Grab your purse, drive down to the nearest movie theater and enjoy a good film — Mom only. It may feel weird at first not having the kids around but you’ll realize it’s a nice low-key activity to do on your own once in a while. Plus, you don’t have to worry about the movie age restrictions. Wink wink.

Visit museums

Walking around a room full of history can be life-changing. And museums offer that. Knowing and remembering the past makes you appreciate your life and others even more. It’s a humbling and amazing experience. Look up free museums in your area. You could even bring the kids next time if you like the experience.

Treat yourself to a fancy dinner

Have you been eyeing that one restaurant where you read online that they serve the best steak? And a rich red wine to wash it down with? Well, book that dinner now and enjoy the whole experience. It feels good to be fancy sometimes.

Have your fortune told

Aren’t we all curious about what’s ahead of us? The uncertain can cause us anxiety. We every so often want to know what we cannot see so we can better prepare for it or have some peace of mind. A seasoned fortune teller can provide advice and structured reading on what the future holds. It can be exciting to have a glimpse. Here’s a guide to finding a fortune teller.

Immerse in nature

Take a hike. Climb a mountain. Enjoy the sound of the river. There’s something about nature that clears the mind and brings focus.

Create art

Bake. Paint. Crochet. Heck, write a song! Anything that you lovingly create will produce a sense of pride and satisfaction.

Do random act of kindness

Help out a stranger. Lend a hand. Volunteer. Sharing your blessings with those in need without asking for anything in return will create a ripple effect. Amelia Earhart said that a single act of kindness throws out roots in all directions, and the roots spring up and make new trees. 

So take the time. Make time. Your family deserves a happy and fulfilled mom to look up to.