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I used to work with a guy who went on a Caribbean cruise every year. Every year he would come back saying he had put on half a stone, mainly in prawns. It sounded amazing honestly. I had visions of seafood buffets as far as the eye could see.

As I’ve got older my urge to cruise has become stronger and stronger. I love the idea of waking up somewhere new every morning without having left my bed, the slow pace, the enforced rest and relaxation. And the prawns. Did I mention the prawns?

In my mind of course I would be strolling along the deck, drop my handkerchief and bend down to pick it up at the same time as Captain Hastings. Poirot would doff his hat to me and call me ‘mademoiselle’ and we would chat about the views and they would probably invite me to join them for dinner. I would become embroiled in an exciting mystery where Poirot would use me as bait to seduce the handsome scoundrel who had been swindling beautiful women across Europe out of their inheritances and together we would extract a confession and save the day.

Caribbean cruise

Like this but fewer pyramids

Wait, where was I?

Oh yes, cruises.

What I really need to do is to make this cruise dream a reality. I need a spend a happy afternoon browsing MSC cruise deals and making Pinterest boards of cruise outfits and practising my lock picking skills, just in case. A good amateur sleuth can always pick a lock, ideally with a hat pin, which I will always have to hand because of the stylish cruising hat I will be wearing.

I picture my cruise in the Caribbean because why not? The Caribbean is beautiful and lends itself very nicely to a book title – ‘The Curse of the Caribbean Swindler’ perhaps. Reese Witherspoon will play me in the film. I will wear something long and flowing to the premiere.

And in the meantime I will stick with swooning over cruise118 and maybe having a prawn sandwich.

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It’s autumn. The leaves are starting to fall, the nights are drawing in and everything is starting to slow down—everything, that is, except our breastfeeding routines. But the cosy season doesn’t mean breastfeeding mums have to stay at home.

Us UK mums are well used to the unpredictable British weather, so we know that whatever autumn throws at us, it’s not going to stop us getting out and about with our babies. We might need to stretch our legs in the park, catch up with the girls for brunch, or make good use of our maternity leave by taking a day trip to one of Britain’s many historical sites.

We can do the things we always did, it’s just now we need to fit our nursing schedule into the good times. And why shouldn’t we? Breastfeeding in public should never be a cause for concern, especially in the UK where breastfeeding mothers’ rights are clear.

But maybe you’re a new mum or you’ve been uncomfortable breastfeeding in public in the past. If that’s the case, I want to share my advice for breastfeeding in public with other UK mums. So, here are my top tips that’ll make breastfeeding when you’re out and about easy and stress-free.

  1. Practise at Home

Not every mum is confident about breastfeeding. I promise you, confidence comes with practice but, as the Boy Scouts motto says, it’s best to “be prepared”. Practising will not only help you gain confidence but allow you to figure out your preferred ways to breastfeed your baby in public.

Try different breastfeeding positions and settings at home, and don’t forget your garden. It’s good to get used to breastfeeding outside so that if your baby’s feed coincides with a walk along a towpath, you’re comfortable with it.

  1. Dress for Comfort and Accessibility

It may seem obvious, but wear clothing that’s going to make you feel comfortable, especially if you’re doing something active like doing your big shop or taking your older kids to the park.

Personally, I prefer long-line front-buttoning shirts and oversized knits because I like to keep myself covered, but we’re all different. Forming fitting clothing is fine—but make it stretchy—jersey material works well for pulling up and over when you need to.

I swear by my Momcozy nursing bra because of its flexibility. It provides extra support, has detachable cups for breastfeeding, and can be worn when I’m pumping too—a total win-win.

  1. Use a Baby Wrap

Baby slings, wraps, or carriers are a great tool for breastfeeding mums because of their flexibility. They do their thing as a baby carrier, but they work great for mums who want a bit more privacy when breastfeeding. The one I use is easy to wear and hands-free.

Let’s say, you’re on a day trip to Salisbury and you’re browsing the market stalls. You realise it’s time for your baby’s feed. You can transform your baby wrap into a sling that positions your baby perfectly for nursing whilst maintaining your modesty. It’s not a necessity, but some mothers find comfort in having that extra layer of privacy. Find a bench and you’re good to go!

  1. Pump & Go

Whichever way your baby gets your milk—it’s breastfeeding. That includes pumping, either at home before you head out into public or while you’re out. Pumping is also great for mums who aren’t as confident breastfeeding in public. If I’m out for the day or on a mini break, I can pump my milk and feed my baby wherever I am. To make it easier I use a pumping bra room for my fantastic  . This way, if I choose not to nipple feed, my baby is still breastfed

It’s always good to have everything you need in one place. I have a brilliant bag that doubles as a pram organiser—it clips right on the handle. It’s not too bulky, holds all my essentials including my pump. It also has a handy phone holder—don’t judge me for scrolling when I nurse—a girl’s got to keep up with the ‘Strictly…’ goss sometime!

  1. 5. Find Breastfeeding-Friendly Locations

If breastfeeding your baby outside doesn’t do it for you, UK mums are lucky. Many public places in the UK are breastfeeding-friendly, including cafes, parks, shopping centres and libraries. A quick internet search will show you hundreds of breastfeeding-friendly establishments, but it’s good to know that all Pizza Express restaurants in Britain welcome breastfeeding mums.

You’ll get to know the places locally that will make you welcome quite quickly. But if your location is unfamiliar, you can either look for a ‘We are breastfeeding welcome’ sticker which indicates a business’ support for breastfeeding mothers or ask an assistant to help you.

  1. Bring a Supportive Friend or Family Member

Some of us are confident breastfeeding in public, some of us aren’t—we’re all different. I wasn’t always confident in the early days. That’s why me and some girls from my postnatal class regularly met up in different public places until we all got into the groove.

Having a supportive friend, partner or family member with you can provide emotional support and encouragement. Their presence can make you feel more at ease and confident when breastfeeding in public. And if there are any issues, you can let your friends deal with them and concentrate on feeding your baby.

  1. Wonder Woman

Breastfeeding is a natural and essential part of motherhood. But it would be foolish to pretend British women aren’t still fighting against sexism and bigotry. In fact, it might surprise you to know that we were only granted the legal right to breastfeed in public in 2010.

We UK mums are proud of our choice to breastfeed our babies, so remember that the opinions of others don’t define your worth as a mother or as a woman. Ignore any judgmental stares or comments and focus on the beautiful connection you share with your child.

  1. It’s OK to Try Again

Mums are amazing but none of us are perfect. Breastfeeding doesn’t always go as planned even when we’re in the comfort of our own homes, let alone when our we and our babies are in a different environment.

If breastfeeding in public doesn’t go right the first, second or third time, don’t give up. Like riding a bike, it takes time and perseverance—oh, and a lot of our famous British sense of humour.

Breastfeeding in public places in the UK should be a positive and empowering experience for mothers. By knowing that you are legally allowed to breastfeed in public anywhere in Britain, by planning ahead and by surrounding yourself with supportive people you can confidently nurture your baby while enjoying the freedom to explore our beautiful country together.

Let’s celebrate the beauty of breastfeeding and work together to create a society where every mother feels respected and supported, whether she chooses to breastfeed underneath the signpost at John O Groats or the one at Land’s End.

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There comes a time in a family where you feel like you have bought All Of The Christmas Gifts. Do you know what I mean? Like you’ve thought of all of the things people would like, bought them for them, and really none of you need anything anymore.

There are a couple of ways you can go with things when you hit this point – you can give up and agree that you don’t need presents anymore OR you can start buying personalised towels with your dog on them.

I know which way I’m going.

Personalised Christmas gifts

I didn’t wait until Christmas to take this round to my mum’s house and give it to her partner Mitch.

Mitch LOVES Mako – I’m not exaggerating when I say he loves her more than any human – and every Christmas so far we’ve given him a calendar full of pictures of her. He always puts a towel down on the sofa for Mako, so this was the absolute perfect gift for him.

Mako had a quick look, clearly understood what was expected, and settled in.

Personalised photo gifts

(Mako is also modelling a Halloween bandana that Belle crocheted for her. Mitch was less keen on this.)

Asda do such a wide range of personalised photo gifts – you don’t have to stick to personalised towels and you’re not obliged to put a picture of Mako on anything, although let me know if you’d like me to send you any as she IS adorable. They have all the usual things like calendars and canvases and cushions and mugs but they also do a few bits that I’ve not seen anywhere else, like a personalised photo memory game.

Yep, you can now capture special family memories forever in a game that you can cherish and play at family get togethers for years to come. OR you can mix things up and include some the worst pictures of everybody and have a jolly good laugh at their expense. I didn’t exclude myself either. I’ve always taken a lovely photo, as you can see:

Personalised pairs game Asda

Photo pairs game Asda

I especially like how my mum and Mako are making the exact same expression in this one.

None of these Asda photo gifts are expensive, but they’re cute and fun and they mean something. If you’re struggling to know what to get for people for Christmas this year then why not create your own family photo game, or maybe a family photo jigsaw for everyone to get stuck into on Boxing Day over a tin of Roses and a tub of Twiglets?

Asda personalised photo gifts

 

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What is it like having a puppy

Everyone loves to pamper their dogs. But these days there are a lot of dogs carrying too much extra weight. Weight gain in dogs can happen for many reasons. Sometimes, we give them too much food or too many treats. Other times, they don’t get enough exercise to burn off the calories they eat.

No matter the reason, carrying extra weight can be hard on a dog’s body. Just like in humans, being overweight can lead to health problems in dogs. It’s essential to monitor a dog’s weight to live a long and happy life. In this article, we will go over several ways to make sure your dog loses weight.

1 – Change the diet

What we feed our dogs plays a big role in their health and weight. Many commercial dog foods and treats are packed with calories and can lead to weight gain if we’re not careful. It’s not just about the amount we feed them, but also the kind of food we choose.

To help our dogs stay healthy, it’s essential to pick high-quality, low-calorie dog food. Look for foods with real meat as the first ingredient and avoid those with fillers like corn and soy. Turkey dog food is a good choice since it is lean meat with a lot of protein and low calories.

It’s also important to pay attention to how much food we give our dogs. Measuring their food can make a big difference. Instead of guessing or filling their bowl whenever it’s empty, use a measuring cup to give the right amount.

2 – Keep them active

Exercise is as essential for dogs as it is for us. Regular physical activity helps dogs stay fit, keeps their joints flexible, and boosts their mood. A dog that exercises often is more likely to be happy and less likely to develop health issues related to weight gain.

Try to choose activities that match your dog’s age, breed, and health. For instance, a young retriever might enjoy long games of fetch, while an older bulldog might prefer shorter, gentle walks. Some breeds have lots of energy and need more exercise, while others are more laid-back.

There are so many fun ways to get your dog moving. Daily walks are a must, but you can also try games like fetch or tug-of-war. For dogs that enjoy a challenge, agility courses offer both physical and mental stimulation.

3 – Keep them mentally stimulated

Dogs are very susceptible to getting bored. And when they do, they might turn to food for entertainment. This is why mental stimulation is so important. Keeping a dog’s mind active can prevent them from overeating out of boredom.

Training sessions are a form of mental exercise. Whether you’re teaching your dog a new trick or practicing old ones, training requires them to focus and think. Plus, it’s a great way for you and your dog to bond. Even just a few minutes of training a day can make a big difference in your dog’s mental well-being.

 

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I can remember very clearly the first time I read a Mo Willems book. Baby Joey was about two years old and I had taken him to the library. I’d picked out a selection of books from the big boxes in the middle of the children’s section and I was imagining us getting comfy in a beanbag or something and reading through each book in hushed tones.

Joey was having none of it of course, and instead was running from one side of the children’s library to the other, over and over, stopping only to pick up a Mr Men book at one end and drop it by my feet at the other.

While Joey got on with things, I looked through the pile of books I’d chosen and settled on Don’t Let The Pigeon Drive The Bus. I sat very nicely and read it to myself in hushed tones.

I loved it. I think I laughed out loud. To myself. In the children’s library.

What I didn’t realise, which I only discovered when I just looked it up on Amazon, is that’s it’s over 20 years old! I couldn’t believe I’d not seen it before. I guess I’ve been out of the kids’ books loop for a while. The pigeon has had a lot of adventures it turns out. I especially liked the sound of The Pigeon Finds a Hotdog.

When I was offered a sneak preview of Willems’s new book for Christmas then, Don’t Let the Pigeon Drive The Sleigh, I said yes please immediately.

Don't Let The Pigeon Drive the Sleigh

The pigeon has a gumption that you can’t help but admire, even when he’s shouting at you. He’s a pigeon who knows what he wants and isn’t afraid to yell at people until he gets it. He’s the version of myself I’d like to be, if getting angry didn’t make me cry and look feeble. (Although I did raise my voice to a woman in a petrol station this morning, which I might tell you about in another post.)

I’ve been meaning to write this post for so long that the good news is that this preview copy is now obsolete as Don’t Let the Pigeon Drive the Sleigh is now OUT and available for you to buy. It would make a jolly nice Christmas present for any small people in your life, or buy it for yourself if you’re the sort of person who likes to sit quietly in the library reading kids’ books.

 

This preview copy was a gift. Post contains affiliate links.

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Do you remember the excitement of rushing to the front door every morning to grab the daily newspaper, eagerly flipping through its pages to catch up on world events and local news? That tangible connection to stories from around the globe instilled a deep appreciation for journalism in many readers.

Creating a newspaper for a school project is an ode to this timeless medium, providing students with a unique opportunity to relive the magic of printed news and to learn the intricacies of journalistic storytelling and design. Moreover, with digital tools’ evolution, a newspaper has transitioned from ink and paper to pixels and screens. At StoryboardThat, you can not only find out how to make newspaper but also pick one of the templates, which will help you a lot.

Step 1. Decide the Purpose and Audience

Ask yourself what you aim to achieve with this newspaper: Do you want to inform, entertain, or persuade your readers? Equally crucial is understanding your target audience. Are you writing for classmates, teachers, the entire school, or perhaps a broader community? Your content, tone, and design will largely be influenced by these initial decisions. By aligning your content with your intended audience’s interests and needs, you can create a more impactful and relevant newspaper.

Step 2. Choose a Name and Format

Pick a catchy name for your newspaper. Decide if it will be digital (e.g., a PDF) or printed. Consider using the templates we have already mentioned above. Be sure to review the name after you finish the project. Sometimes, the name is better to be chosen at the end of the task.

Step 3. Gather Your Content

Decide on the type of articles you want:

  • News: Recent events in school, sports results, or world news.
  • Features: In-depth stories on interesting topics or profiles of students or teachers.
  • Opinions: Editorials, letters to the editor, or opinion pieces.
  • Entertainment: Comic strips, puzzles, movie reviews, etc.
  • Advertisements: Create fictional or real ads to fill space and give an authentic look.

Step 4. Pick Design Layout

Layout is crucial. Here are some points to keep in mind:

  • Headlines: Use large, bold fonts to grab attention.
  • Images: Include photos, illustrations, or infographics. Ensure you have the right to use them or create your own.
  • Columns: Traditional newspapers use columns to organize text. Consider two or three columns per page.
  • Captions: Always caption your images.
  • Whitespace: Don’t overcrowd. Whitespace can help in making the content readable.

Step 5. Write and Be Clear

When crafting articles for your newspaper, clarity is paramount. Aim to convey your message in a straightforward and understandable manner. Remember the fundamental principle of journalism: answer the 5 W’s (Who, What, When, Where, Why) to ensure your readers grasp the essential details of any story. Avoid technical jargon and overly complex sentences, as these can deter readers. Instead, embrace brevity and precision in your writing. Lastly, always proofread your work, not just for grammar and punctuation errors, but also to guarantee factual accuracy and coherence in your narrative.

Step 6. Collaborate with Other Students

Newspapers are often team efforts. Work with classmates to diversify skills. Writers, editors, photographers, designers, and even ‘ad sales’ will help you with the project (if you’re simulating a real-world scenario). Brainstorm ideas together for a more dynamic and varied newspaper.

Step 7. Collect Feedback

Before finalizing your paper, share a draft with teachers, friends, and even family. They might offer valuable insights or catch errors you missed. And do not forget to review the name. Is it still suitable for the newspaper draft?

Step 8. Print or Share Digitally

If it’s a digital newspaper, share it via email, school platforms, or social media. If printed, ensure you use good-quality paper and ink.

Step 9. Reflect and Learn

After the project, evaluate:

  • What went well?
  • What challenges did you face?
  • How can you improve for the next project?

Step 10. Finally, Celebrate!

Producing a newspaper, even for a school project, is a big achievement. Celebrate with your team and enjoy the results of your hard work.

Creating a newspaper for a school project can be a fun and educational experience. It encourages teamwork and creativity, as well as develops a range of skills from writing to design. Take these steps, you’re on your way to producing an outstanding newspaper that your audience will love.

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I bloody love a quiz. I’ve loved quizzes ever since I used to get Garfield magazine, (mainly for the pen pal section – did anyone else have a Garfield penpal??), and the quizzes would be about whether I liked lasagne. Aged about 13 I progressed to Just Seventeen, and the quizzes were very much focussed on things like ‘Does he fancy you?’ and ‘Do boys like you?’ and ‘What kind of kisser are you?’

There was no mention of lasagne, although on reflection I suspect there may be some overlap between whether or not you can make a lasagne and whether or not a boy will like you.

Today’s quiz though is about another of my lifelong loves – alongside carbs and boys – and that is STATIONERY. Dairies to be precise. Unlike boys, you know where you stand with a diary. They are never going to let you down or be late for anything, they simply couldn’t, they are punctuality and organisation in paper form. They are reliable, beautiful, useful – everything you always wanted a boy to be at a fraction of the emotional cost.

HOORAH FOR DIARIES!

In celebration of the humble diary, today I am offering you up not just a quiz, but the chance to win a diary that has been matched, by science*, to your exact personality type. I know, what a day.

The giveaway is being sponsored and the prizes donated by the lovely people at Busy B. The Busy B team make all kind of notebooks, diaries, meal planners and more, all with attention to detail and practical design. I’ve loved them for years and I know you will too. If you see something you like, or fancy doing a bit of Christmas shopping, you can get 20% off all non-sale items until the end of the year with the code MAKO20.

Let’s get cracking with the quiz shall we?

Busy B diaries

The questions

Question 1:

How best describes how you use your diary?

A: I use it to prevent a nervous breakdown trying to keep track of myself, my three children and 14 cats.

B: I use mine to note key appointments, manicures etc, and keep it in my elegant clutch bag at all times.

C: I use mine to plan out the Christmas Of Dreams every year, plus of course my annual summer garden party, and all of our holidays with friends in villas in Greece.

D: I pretty much have to remind myself to shower and eat meals and can’t remember a thing without it.

E: It’s just a diary DAHRLING, for writing down lunch dates with all of my friends because I am so popular.

Question 2:

What are your childhood memories of keeping a diary?

A: It was basically a family history, a who’s who and who goes where of everyone I knew

B: I’d start with good intentions, but let’s say I didn’t need PAGES

C: I mainly used it to plan my dream wedding and make my Christmas list

D: I kept a very thorough record of everything I did, including every meal I ate, down to sandwich fillings.

E: Mine was a bit of a mix of day-to-day stuff, notes, lists, all sorts really.

Question 3:

If your diary were on Keeping Up With The Kardashians, who would it be?

A: Kris

B: Kourtney

C: Kim

D: Khloé

E: Caitlyn

Question 4:

Would you like a diary with super cool handy pockets for storing all those little bits of Important Stuff?

A: Yes please

B: Very much so

C: I couldn’t do without them

D: Well dur

E: I’d give a kidney for them

Which diary should I get?

The results

Mostly As: You’re a busy life diary! You’re a multi-tasker, so you need a diary that can keep up. Busy B busy life diaries have a unique dual schedule format so you can have two schedules running alongside each other, perfect for keeping track of the family schedule as well as your own. There’s extra space for reminders, lists and handy pockets. Basically this diary does everything bar make you a coffee.

Mostly Bs: You’re an A6 To Do diary! I bet you never knew it either. This is a sleek and stylish diary, small but perfectly formed, for easy planning at a glance, monthly overviews and week-by-week pages with lots of room for notes. Perfect for keeping in a handbag and pulling out at opportune moments to say ‘let me consult my diary’.

Mostly Cs: You’re a Perfect Planner diary! You love to plan. And I mean LOVE to plan. You don’t just want a monthly overview, you want to see the whole damn year at a glance, just to see how well spaced out your mini-breaks are. The Perfect Planner diary has expense pages too, because that’s just the kind of person you are.

Mostly Ds: You’re a Day a Page diary! Where the Perfect Planner sees the whole year, you see a single day at a time. Some people call you mindful, others say you’re a teeny bit of a control freak. You say you just like to know what’s happening from one minute to the next and honestly what’s wrong with that? Keep an eye on the bigger picture too with a year planner and birthday list.

Mostly Es: You’re an A5 To Do diary! Yep, you guessed it, it’s the A6 To Do diary but EVEN BIGGER. It does all the same stuff, but the A5 To Do is saying ‘yeah, I guess I’m just more important or have more friends or something?’ There are monthly overviews, weekly planners and of course the iconic Busy B handy pockets for tucking away all the phone numbers of the new and important friends you make.

Mostly Fs: Are you okay hun? Maybe go and have a lie-down.

Busy B diary discount code

How to win a Busy B diary

Once you’ve taken the quiz, all you have to do is leave a comment on this post telling me which type of diary you are. (Or which you’d like if you didn’t get an outright winner.) Make sure you complete the email box as that’s how I’ll be contacting winners.

I’m running this competition across my blog and this Instagram post, so if you want some extra entries you can go and enter there too. I’ll put all the entries in a hat and pull out five winners after midnight on 31st October. As long as the witches don’t get me. UK entries only I’m afraid as I’m in charge of posting.

Good luck!

*And by ‘science’ I mean ‘my made-up quiz’

 

 

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Post in association with Performance Learning

Secondary school was not what you would call a FUN TIME for Belle.

In fact, it was distinctly UNFUN. She found the whole set-up extremely stressful and was not helped by the fact that the only effort the school made to support her with her anxiety was to give her a red card to wave in class if she felt anxious. (I’m not kidding, this was their actual strategy for dealing with anxiety.)

What the school never once flagged was the possibility that she might have any additional needs and so it was only through our own efforts – Belle pushing me initially and then me pushing anyone I could think of – that she finally was diagnosed with ASD, aged 17. By this point, she had dropped out of school and then college, managing to turn up for her GCSE exams and somehow pass them all despite the stress and despite not having done any work or revision of any kind in months.

(I say ‘somehow’ – she’s extremely bright, that’s how.)

Me and Belle

Secondary school-aged Belle and me when I still had a defined jawline

I often look back at that time in her life and wonder how school might have been different if we’d been more aware of her needs and if she’d had more support in place. Could she have had a more positive experience if she’d been helped to understand her situation and to adapt her learning style to suit HER rather than the school’s expectations of her?

What is obvious to me from talking to friends with children is that a LOT of kids are struggling with school and with life in general. The school environment suits some people, sure, but the majority of children find some aspect of it challenging, and there aren’t the resources (or perhaps even the inclination?) to change how things are done to ensure that every child gets as much as they can out of their school experience. You can argue that the whole school system needs reforming, but there ARE things you can do to support your child and their learning style without taking them out of school completely.

Introducing Performance Learning

I spoke recently to Tej Samani, founder of Performance Learning, a coaching programme designed to help you understand how your child feels about their subjects, about school, about themselves and, most importantly, how these all fit together.

I want to say first up that having spoken to Tej twice, I GET IT. I understand what he is trying to do, what he has spent over 10 years developing, and I totally buy into the concept. This isn’t one of your basic tuition websites or some money spinner, this is a man who cares about children’s learning. In our second conversation, he MADE ME CRY. (Not intentionally. More on that later.) I say this because I want you to know that I believe in the power of Performance Learning to help your kids.

Tej didn’t have an easy time at school, and his passion for making education accessible is inspired by his own experiences. The idea behind Performance Learning is a seemingly simple, holistic approach that says that we cannot look at school alone, we have to look at our child’s skills, their behaviour and their well-being as one package. I say ‘seemingly simple’ because this can be difficult for schools to do without a better understanding of how children FEEL. Performance Learning considers factors like sleep deprivation, overwhelm and emotional triggers as well as their school experience.

Performance Learning is already being used by tens of thousands of children through Tej’s work directly with schools and teachers and now he wants more parents to be able to access the programme at home.

The Performance Learning assessment

The Performance Learning process starts with a 15-minute assessment, which kids complete in their own time by working through a series of questions that explore their attitude to learning, to school and to themselves. I asked Belle to complete the assessment putting herself back in her 14-year-old self, which I know was difficult for her as they are still such powerful and distressing memories, even seven years later.

Tej has developed this assessment, through years of research, to provide as much information about a child as possible within a relatively simple set of questions. Completing the assessment can be difficult, as it forces children to be honest with themselves, but Tej has spent a long time making it accessible and straightforward.

This is what the assessment looks like:

Performance Learning assessment

 

Performance Learning review

 

Looking at the results

Once your child has completed the assessment, you’ll be sent a report that highlights key areas for develop and assigns them a ‘score’ and an alert level – this isn’t a measure of achievement, simply a way for you as a parent to track their progress. Your child gets their own version of the report too.

I spoke to Tej about the report and it was genuinely moving how easily it felt like he had got to know Belle just through those few questions – he spoke about her with more insight than any of her teachers throughout the whole of her secondary school career. (He hasn’t spent all those years developing the tools for nothing). He highlighted how she clearly had the will to learn, to WANT to do well, but she just hadn’t known how.

He talked about how with just a few weeks of coaching, he felt he would have been able to give Belle some of the tools and structure she needed to make things easier and to feel more confident about school. I know she would have still struggled with many aspects of it and I know that there’s no way to prove now how much of a difference Performance Learning would have made, but I believed him.

He also said that it was clear that she had only done as well as she had because of my help. He said that he could see from her results that my acceptance of her and my support had been the thing that made the difference to her. He called me her ‘saving grace’. It was at this point that I cried, which was honestly a little embarrassing on what was meant to be a professional work call, but it hit me hard. I cried after the call telling Belle about it. I am welling up writing this.

What I’m trying to say is that I UNDERSTAND if you currently feel like you’re doing everything you can as a parent and still feel like you’re lost, or helpless or don’t know how to support your child through school. The fact that you are even worrying about it means you’re probably already doing your best, but maybe Performance Learning could help too.

How to use Performance Learning

Once your child has completed the assessment and you understand the results, you’re already in a stronger position to support them, because you’ll have an insight into where they’re currently struggling, their triggers and worries, and the actions that you can take as a family to improve their well-being and focus going forward.

You’ll then have access to the full Performance Learning programme, which includes:

  • The initial Performance Learning Assessment – INSIGHT
  • A priinted Performance Learning workbook that will be sent to your home
  • Pre-programme onboarding session
  • 5 x 2-hour long live virtual group coaching sessions delivered by Tej for your child and you
  • 12-month access to online learning platform – SOAR

SOAR delivers bespoke learning pathways, based on your child’s assessments, designed to help children understand more about themselves and how they learn and to offer practical, actionable advice on everything from sleep to self-esteem. This is NOT about subject revision, this is about equipping children with the lifelong skills and resilience they need to get the most out of school, college and even life.

Performance Learning is already being used in hundreds of schools, but if you’re interested in finding out more about how it can help your family directly then a good first step would be to watch the FREE training video for parents, all about how to help improve your child’s engagement in the classroom.

I would honestly have loved to have been able to try Performance Learning with Belle and would be interested to hear how you get on and what difference it makes to you and your child.

 

 

 

 

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Marriage is a union that carries immense emotional significance. Beyond the vows and the celebration, it is also a legal and financial partnership. While most couples prepare for their big day with meticulous attention to every detail, not all are as diligent in planning for their shared future. The matrimonial journey is unpredictable, and navigating it with a strong foundation is essential. Protecting your partnership in changing circumstances can bring peace of mind. In this context, let’s explore the role of post-marital agreements and their potential benefits.

Understanding Post-Marital Agreements

Now, you may wonder what a post marital agreement is and how it differs from its well-known predecessor, the prenuptial agreement. While a prenup is established before marriage, a post marital agreement is entered into after the couple is legally wed. Its purpose? To outline how assets and liabilities would be divided should the marriage end in separation, divorce, or death. This document can also address spousal support and other critical issues.

Why Consider A Post-Marital Agreement?

Life is a journey with ups and downs. Over time, personal and financial situations evolve, and previously unforeseen circumstances may arise. Perhaps one spouse inherits a significant amount, or a career shift leads to a dramatic income change. Maybe the couple decides on a new financial arrangement, or there’s concern over debt. A post-marital agreement can offer clarity and protection in these and many other situations.

Key Components Of A Post-Marital Agreement

Drafting a post-marital agreement requires a comprehensive understanding of what to incorporate. This document isn’t merely about division; it’s a blueprint of your financial responsibilities and entitlements as a couple. To ensure both partners are on the same page and future misunderstandings are minimized, here’s a deeper dive into the essential components:

Asset Division: The Cornerstone of Financial Clarity

Every couple accumulates assets throughout their marriage. These assets form a significant part of a couple’s net worth, from real estate properties and stock portfolios to antiques and jewelry. But how do you determine which assets belong to whom?

  • Joint Assets: Typically, anything acquired during the marriage, be it a home or investments, is considered joint property. Both parties have equal rights over these assets.
  • Separate Assets: These are assets one partner brought into the marriage or acquired separately, perhaps through an inheritance or a personal gift. It’s essential to distinguish these assets in the agreement to ensure they remain separate.

Documenting asset ownership isn’t about claiming what’s “mine” or “yours.” It’s about establishing clarity so both partners feel secure and respected.

Debt Responsibility: Preventing Financial Surprises

Much like assets, debt plays a crucial role in a couple’s financial landscape. An unexpected debt can strain any relationship, which is why it’s pivotal to:

  • List Existing Debts: Be it student loans, mortgages, or credit card debts, all existing financial obligations should be transparently listed, along with a clear distinction of responsibility.
  • Plan for Future Debts: While you can’t predict every financial obligation, you can set guidelines. For instance, agree on consultation before taking on significant debts or determine how investment-related debts are managed.

Remember, open dialogue about debts ensures you are never caught off guard and can plan your financial future effectively.

Spousal Support: Upholding Mutual Respect

Every partner in a marriage plays a unique role. Sometimes, one might pause their career or reduce working hours to support the family or other mutual decisions. This sacrifice shouldn’t jeopardize their financial security.

  • Determining Need: Assess the potential future needs of the partner pausing their career. What would they require to maintain a reasonable standard of living?
  • Duration and Amount: How long should support last? Is it until they can be self-sufficient or for a predetermined period? Agreeing on an amount and duration reduces potential future conflicts.

It’s about recognizing sacrifices and ensuring they don’t lead to financial vulnerabilities.

Estate Planning Considerations: Protecting Tomorrow, Today

Death is a topic no one wants to broach, but it’s an inevitable part of life. Integrating estate planning within your post-marital agreement ensures your partner isn’t left in a lurch during such challenging times.

  • Wills and Trusts: If either partner has a will or trust, it’s crucial to ensure that these documents are consistent with the post-marital agreement.
  • Asset Distribution: Clearly outline how joint assets will be distributed. It’s also vital to ensure separate assets are bequeathed per the individual’s wishes.

By aligning your post-marital agreement with your estate planning, you ensure a seamless transition for your spouse and other beneficiaries during trying times.

Navigating Potential Pitfalls

Crafting a post-marital agreement is a sensitive endeavor. It’s essential to approach the topic with care and mutual respect. Here’s how:

 

  • Open Communication

 

Discuss the agreement openly, ensuring both parties understand and agree to its terms.

 

  • Legal Representation

 

Both partners should have independent legal advice to ensure their interests are protected.

 

  • Regular Updates

 

As life circumstances change, revisit and update the agreement as needed.

Benefits Of A Post-Marital Agreement

With a well-drafted agreement in place, you’ll reap several benefits:

 

  • Clarity In Financial Matters

 

By detailing financial rights and responsibilities, both partners better understand their shared financial landscape.

 

  • Reduced Conflict Potential

 

By pre-emptively addressing potential issues, you minimize the likelihood of disputes down the road.

 

  • Empowerment

 

Taking charge of your financial future together makes both partners feel empowered and secure.

Conclusion

Marriage is a journey filled with shared dreams and challenges. While no one enters a union anticipating its end, life is unpredictable. By considering a post-marital agreement, you’re not casting doubt on your relationship but fortifying its foundation. It’s about ensuring both partners feel secure, regardless of the future. As you navigate this path, remember the importance of open communication, mutual respect, and the guidance of trusted professionals. Protecting your partnership goes beyond the wedding bells; with the right steps, you can ensure peace of mind for years to come.

 

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Other than your house, your car is probably one of the most expensive things that you own. It’s also one of the most necessary things for a busy family, especially if you have a regular commute. 

The time may come when you need to replace your old faithful car with something more suitable for your family. You can put it off for as long as you like, but your bank account is already whimpering.

Unfortunately, while it would be lovely to say that you can actually buy a car for just a few quid and it’ll be perfectly fine and definitely not stolen or dodgy in any way, you will have to cough up some cash. 

But how can you soften the blow to your bank account and make sure that you get the right motor for the price?

That’s where this article comes in. Spoiler alert, you can expect a lot of talk about doing your research before you buy.

Do You Need a New Car?

The best way to save money on your new car is just not to buy one in the first place. However, no car can last forever, so when you see the signs, it’ll be time to cough up. 

First things first, is your car safe and legal to drive? Your yearly MOT and service will identify problems with your vehicle that need to be fixed for it to be roadworthy. If your car fails its MOT, it’s not necessarily a sign that the car is kaput. But pay attention to the MOT results and what repairs crop up again and again.

If your car dramatically fails every year and needs expensive repairs to be roadworthy, you might be better off getting a new one. This is a sign that your car is wearing out too quickly and between checkups, it might not be safe to drive. Another sign is if your car regularly breaks down or you find yourself repeatedly taking it to the mechanic outside of routine maintenance.

A worn-out car is expensive to run and probably not safe to drive. It might also become more expensive to insure, adding to its cost.

On a similar note, a car in this state often won’t look great. True, you might not drive a car for its looks, but a rusty vehicle or one with patches where the panels or doors have been replaced just looks scruffy. It’s even worse if you use your car for work, as it reflects on your professionalism.

Finally, there are some situations where, even if your car runs okay and looks okay, you might consider getting a new one. For example, if your family is growing, your car might need to be upgraded to a larger model so that you can fit the kids (and everything else that comes with them) into the car. 

As your family grows and changes, its needs will grow and change as well. Another potential situation is that you need two vehicles for your family instead of just one, especially in a two-parent household where you need to think about work commutes, school commutes, and grocery runs during the week.

Setting a Budget

If you don’t want to break the bank, you need to pay attention to how big a hit your balance can take. Most people have to take out a loan to buy a vehicle, or they pay in installments (although this can sometimes be more expensive in the long run, so compare prices with an eagle eye). 

Ideally, when taking out a loan, you want to pay as little interest as possible. So, check your finances and work out what you can afford, either as a lump sum or as regular loan payments. A good credit can help you to find loans that you can more easily afford to pay off.

When you set a budget like this, it immediately narrows down your choices and makes picking a car more simple. If you can’t afford it, don’t even consider it.

You also need to measure your budget up against what you need from your car and what you want. Unfortunately, you might not be able to cover all of your wants, but hopefully, your budget can net you a car that covers your needs. 

Setting a budget early prevents you from overspending and can reduce any money worries that might crop up. Everything is expensive, and the cost of living is so high that you don’t want to add to your financial burden if you can absolutely help it.

When setting a budget, factor in running costs and insurance as well. Nobody wants the nasty surprise of sky-high insurance premiums and road tax.

New or Used Cars?

The best way to save money when buying a car is to buy a used car. No, this doesn’t mean some old banger that’s two miles away from turning itself into scrap. A car with a couple of years and a few thousand miles on the clock is perfect, as it’s still relatively reliable and much cheaper than a brand-new car.

Whether you’re buying a new car or a used car, try to use a car dealership that offers a couple of years of warranty and services. This means that, even if your vehicle does need a little TLC, you have no reason not to keep it well-maintained so it runs perfectly. 

Some dealerships will also allow you to test-drive the vehicle, so you can get a feel for it. Even if you’ve done all your research and narrowed it down to a few car choices, the test drive can be the deciding factor for you.

Finally, do your best to haggle. A lot of dealerships expect a degree of haggling, although you don’t want to be insulting. If you can shave a bit off the price or get something extra added in, you’ll thank yourself later.

Getting Help

Believe it or not, not everyone is an expert in all things mechanical. If cars aren’t your thing, you might feel overwhelmed and worried that you’ll spend all that money on something that isn’t right for your family.

The good news is that you don’t have to go it alone. In fact, with a significant purchase, it’s a good idea to look for all the advice you can get.

If you have friends or family who are more car-savvy than you, ask for their advice and input. Most people who are interested in cars are also interested in talking about cars, so you should find that they’re willing to share their opinions. 

You do need to bear in mind that it’s still your money and your future car, so set some boundaries as well. Don’t just buy a car because your friend likes it, but consider your circumstances and budget as well.

Another option is to use a car checker or car guide, especially when you’ve narrowed down your choices to a select few. This is very important when getting a used car because even if it looks fine, you don’t know its full history. This includes unreported accidents, maintenance history, or a sordid past as a taxi, or anything else that might concern you.

Yes, this might all sound like a lot of work, but if you make the right decision when buying your car, it can make a massive difference in your life for the next few years. So, do the research now and save yourself pain in the future.

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Digital banking, including online and mobile banking, offers ease in managing finances. With this technology, you can conveniently pay bills, deposit checks, and transfer funds from anywhere. According to a recent survey conducted by Forbes in 2022, more than 78% of Americans prefer digital banking due to its convenience. However, it is important to consider the security of online and mobile banking and take necessary precautions to safeguard your financial and personal information. Reputable financial institutions employ various security measures, but you can also take steps on your own to bank account protection from potential hackers.

Is online banking safe?

When your bank adheres to stringent security protocols and you know how to identify potential security threats, online banking becomes a secure method to manage your finances.

Banks employ multiple security measures to safeguard customer information, such as:

  • Implementing 128-bit or 256-bit data encryption
  • Utilizing encrypted email messaging
  • Incorporating automatic logout functionality for online and mobile banking
  • Enabling two-factor authentication
  • Continuously monitoring accounts
  • Verifying electronic signatures

Risks of online banking

Logging into your bank’s website or app using an unsecured network while you’re on the go can result in serious consequences. Be cautious of the following:

  • Phishing: Fraudsters may impersonate your bank and attempt to gather personal information through emails or SMS. They create dummy sites that resemble the ones you’re familiar with, tricking you into providing passwords or bank account details. This information is then used for identity theft or financial fraud.
  • Viruses: If your bank doesn’t utilize secure software, you run the risk of being exposed to malware or viruses that can infect your computer or phone, potentially causing significant damage.
  • Maintenance outages: Solely relying on online banking means that any unforeseen outage, whether intentional or accidental, could leave you in a financially vulnerable position.

How to secure your bank account from hackers?

#1 Use a strong password

Passwords serve as the primary defense. However, the increasing number of passwords we need to manage has become a headache. Studies and articles online highlight that on average, individuals handle upwards of 80 passwords. Even with a small portion of that, it is highly recommended to utilize a password manager. Choosing a reliable password manager will generate robust and distinct passwords for each account, securely storing them.

To ensure security, avoid simple passwords that can be easily guessed or obtained from other sources such as birthdays or pet names. Furthermore, it is crucial to create unique passwords for each account. This practice can prevent major issues in case of a compromised account, as hackers won’t be able to use the same password on other accounts.

#2 Be careful with public Wi-Fi

Hackers can easily gain access to your computer and steal personal information when connected to public Wi-Fi. To keep your information secure, never access your bank’s website through a computer, tablet, or mobile phone unless you’re connected to a secure Wi-Fi network with a password or using your cell phone data connection. By doing so, you make it much more challenging for thieves to hack and protect your information. It’s also crucial to learn how to stop Wi-Fi owner to see your history which can further enhance your online privacy. Additionally, regularly updating your device’s security software and using a VPN like VeePN can provide an extra layer of protection against cyber threats.

#3 Enable 2FA

Two-factor, or multifactor, authentication adds a layer of security verification when logging into your online or mobile banking account. Initially, you enter your login credentials, followed by passing a second security test.

As an illustration, you may be required to input a unique code, verify your account through an automated phone call, utilize biometric verification, or identify an image. These measures make it challenging for hackers or identity thieves to gain access to your account, even if they possess your online or mobile banking password.

#4 Avoid phishing attacks

Crooks commonly employ phishing as a method to steal personal information via email. Phishing emails can take various forms, ranging from impersonating lawyers seeking bank transfers to announcing fake lottery winnings. These classic tactics are still prevalent, but phishing techniques have evolved to become more sophisticated. Nowadays, hackers pose as banks, online stores, or credit card companies and utilize well-designed emails that closely resemble genuine correspondence.

However, these emails are fraudulent. The embedded links lead to hackers, who aim to steal personal information or redirect payments. One clear indication of a phishing email is a sender’s address that slightly alters the brand name or adds extra language at the end. If you receive such an email, avoid clicking on any links. Instead, contact the institution in question using the phone number or address listed on their official website. This is a reliable guideline to follow. The preferred means of communication should always be the one you have used and trusted previously.

#5 Use a VPN

If we consider how safe online banking is, then it is quite reliable. However, it is still susceptible to some vulnerabilities on the client side. Even a free VPN extension for Chrome from a trusted developer like VPN proxy VeePN is enough to close these security gaps. The same VPN for Chrome encrypts data before sending and receiving. This means that no one can intercept your data, even if you are using public Wi-Fi. More precisely, the data can be intercepted, but it will be encrypted.

#6 Don’t save your payment information in your browser or smartphone

Many websites offer the choice to store login details for convenience. However, if someone else uses your device afterward, they may have access to your bank accounts. To combat this, banking sites now implement inactivity timeouts and refrain from saving user information.

#7 Keep all devices updated

Outdated computers and mobile devices might lack the necessary security measures to safeguard your personal and financial data from the newest computer viruses. If a virus infects your computer, a hacker could discreetly gain access to your bank accounts, resulting in the loss of your funds without your awareness. It is crucial to promptly execute recommended updates and implement antivirus software to enhance your computer’s protection.

#8 Beware of calls

Criminals still prefer utilizing telephones, leveraging the perception of trust associated with this age-old communication method. This technique, known as “vishing” or “voice phishing,” reflects the familiar intent of phishing scams: coaxing victims into fraudulent financial transactions and data theft. The perpetrators may adopt various approaches, such as posing as a bank representative, a reputable tech support agent, or even sending messages that urge recipients to call a specified number.

For instance, a fraudster may call, introducing themselves as a representative from your bank or credit card company, claiming they have inquiries regarding your account. In such scenarios, it is advisable to conclude the call politely and reach out to your bank or credit card company independently to address any genuine concerns. Scammers can employ highly convincing tactics but always remember that you remain in control. Feel free to disconnect the call and contact a trusted phone number to validate the authenticity of the interaction.

#9 Monitor your account regularly

Taking the necessary precautions should (hopefully) keep unauthorized access to your bank account at bay. To ensure absolute security, regularly review your account balances and transaction history and ensure that your money remains in its designated place. If you come across any suspicious activity, promptly change your account password and immediately contact your bank.

While most of these guidelines should be common knowledge, you must remain vigilant. This concerns your hard-earned money – once it’s gone, recovery may prove challenging. If you haven’t recently updated your computer’s software, established two-factor authentication, or modified your bank account password, take the initiative now to safeguard your financial information exclusively.

#10 Sign up for banking alerts

Banking alerts instantly notify you about specific actions that take place. You will receive prompt notifications regarding potential fraudulent or suspicious activity. It is also possible to receive alerts via email or text message for the following:

  • Low or high account balances
  • New credit and debit transactions
  • Newly linked external accounts
  • Failed login attempts
  • Password changes
  • Updates to personal information

If you receive an alert and suspect any fraudulent or suspicious activity, make sure to immediately contact your bank or credit union and update your online and mobile banking passwords.

#11 Choose safe financial institutions

Financial applications, such as mobile banking apps, offer convenience for various banking tasks like bill payments, money transfers, and shopping. However, it’s crucial to note that their security levels may differ.

When planning to use your bank’s mobile app, ensure you are using the official version obtained from their website. If downloading from the App Store or Google Play, verify the legitimacy by checking the developer details and reading reviews.

Carefully consider which apps you grant access to your online and mobile banking information. For instance, if you prefer a budgeting app to manage your finances, be cautious when sharing your login credentials for data retrieval and financial analysis, as this might put your data at risk.

Before downloading any financial application, examine its ratings and research its security policies to mitigate the likelihood of past data breaches.

Conclusion

To ensure the security of online banking, you need to consider several key factors. First, use all the standard protection methods that your bank offers. Secondly, you need to understand potential vulnerabilities and know how to counteract them. Third, traffic should be encrypted. These measures are enough to ensure that no one can break into your bank account.

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The trend for ‘self care’ has got a bit carried away. Every brand going seems to have jumped on the self care bandwagon – ‘have a Starbucks! It’s self care!’ – and it feels a bit like anything and everything has been transformed into a symbolic act to show you’re looking after yourself.

The reality though is that self care isn’t about spending money or ‘treating yourself’ to expensive things, it’s about taking the time to connect with yourself, your hobbies, your friends and families and to allow yourself space to relax and pursue interests outside the usual work and chores. I’ve picked out a few ideas for ways to take some time out for self care without having to resort to taking a bubble bath with a glass of wine and a bar of chocolate.

Do one thing at a time

This might sound like a funny one, but stripping back your activities and concentrating on one thing at a time can be powerful. If you think about it, we often layer things on – we watch a film and eat snacks and have a drink and probably have our phones nearby too – it’s a lot. Instead, try zoning in and JUST watching a film or JUST enjoying a snack. It can create a more rewarding experience and help to improve your concentration and focus as well.

Masturbate

The ultimate ‘me time’, masturbation has a lot of short and long term benefits for physical and mental health. It’s a great way for starters to get to know your body and feel more accepting of it and this can have a positive impact on your other sexual relationships as it helps you to understand the things you like and don’t like. Try experimenting with toys that you might not have used before – butt plugs for instance can create a whole new experience.

Take some exercise

This might not be the first thing you think of when you think self care, but taking regular exercise, especially outdoors or as part of a team, is a great way to release endorphins and get those happy chemicals flowing. Not only do you get the short-term rush of hormones though, you have the long-term benefits for your health and well-being too. If you don’t fancy a triathlon or anything intensive then even taking a half hour walk through the park can be enough to get the blood pumping.

Connect with nature

Following on from this and the idea of being outside is the importance of spending time outside and noticing the small things around you. Connecting with nature is a form of mindfulness and is a great way to gain some perspective on any issues that you might be struggling with. Combine your time in nature with learning a new skill like naming wildflowers and you can double up the benefits.

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