Networking tips from people who network + a cool app you have to get now

networking tips

Have you ever been to a business networking event?

Ever been to one and wished you’d stayed at home?

Ever felt you really should go to one, but been too nervous?

If you answered yes to either of those last two questions, then you’re definitely not alone. Business networking can be a hugely valuable (and fun) way to make new contacts and grow your business, but if you’re new to it, it can also be a bit scary, especially if it’s one of those breakfast events where you’re required to chat intelligently at 7am at the same time as balancing your business cards in one hand and a chewy bacon bap in the other. (Who really wants to choke down a bacon bap that early in the morning? Not me.)

I can reassure you though that it does get better. There are two things you essentially need to do:

  1. Experiment. You may need to try a few groups before you find one that suits you. That’s okay. If the first one doesn’t feel right, it doesn’t mean you’ve failed. (I inadvertently wrote ‘a few drinks’ there first time around, rather than ‘a few groups’, which I’m sure says a lot.)
  2. Practice. Once you do find a group that doesn’t completely fill you with dread, keep going. As with most things, the more you do it, the easier it becomes, until one day you’ll be so confident about the whole thing that you’ll be writing a blog post offering other people networking advice. (Tada!)

As part of my project with the Federation of Small Businesses, I went along to one of their local networking groups a couple of weeks ago, to find out more about the people there and to get some tips from them on how to make the most of networking. My local Somerset group is open to both FSB members and non-members and normally has around 20-30 people attend. The location varies, so as to make it as accessible as possible. It’s definitely worth checking out your local region to see what’s going on.

How to network

So, networking tips. I’m guessing that’s why you’re still reading? I went to a group a month or so ago actually where I picked up one very good tip – hold your drink in your left hand, so that when you go to shake someone’s hand, it’s not all clammy. (Someone said that in the introduction, I didn’t disgust someone with my horribly clammy hand or anything.)

At the local FSB networking group though, I picked up a few others for you:

Think about the follow up

“Always think about how you’re going to follow up with somebody,” said Ganine Doyle from Print Guy. “You can’t expect to do business with someone straight away – business networking is a long term thing – but you do need to have a plan to stay in touch with people.”

If you feel awkward getting in touch with someone after an event, or are worried about seeming pushy, lay the groundwork at the meeting by promising to get in touch with a useful piece of information or link that you’ve chatted about. This gives you a good reason to get their contact details and should provide an easy way to start further conversation. Plus, networking should first and foremost be able how you can help other people. It’s all about the business karma.

Set goals

Becky Trout from children’s charity BIBIC told me that she thinks it’s really important to put in a little bit of thought before the event. “You don’t get the most out of networking unless you’re clear about what you want to achieve,” said Becky. “Having goals keeps you focussed, and gives you a sense of a job well done at the end of the session.”

If you’re new to networking, these goals can be simple ones to start with, such as aiming to talk to three new people, and to follow up with them afterwards. Having these goals in the back of your mind encourages you to be a bit more proactive, rather than standing in the corner by the coffees, waiting for someone to introduce themselves.

Make notes

Meeting a lot of people all at once can be overwhelming at the best of times, and you’ll probably find you come away having forgotten plenty of names, faces and promises to get in touch. “Write a note on the back of each card,” suggests Jenny Thomas, from Performing Confidently, “with an interesting fact or prompt to help you remember who each person is and what you talked about. It really helps to have a little context to act as a reminder when you’re looking at your stack of cards the next day.”

If you like the sound of this idea, think about how you could create business cards that help the process. For example, you might want to think about having a photo of yourself somewhere on the card as a visual reminder for people. Think too about people like Jenny, and leave some space on your card for notes, and make it easy to scribble on – a gloss finish might look nice but is it practical?

And finally…

I want to give a shout out to the speaker at my FSB networking event – Nina Goodwin from Cosmic. Often I go away from short presentations like this feeling a little deflated, not having particularly learnt anything new, but Nina’s talk was ACE. She talked us through a day in the life of her mobile phone in terms of all of the apps she regularly uses and it was really useful – definitely one of those lightbulb moments where you realise just how little you actually knew about something, and come away with lots of very practical advice.

My favourite new app is definitely Word Swag. As you will see if you follow me on Instagram, I am now spending quite a lot of time adding pretty text to pictures. Some people are just very easily amused…

Do you have any good business networking tips?

Don’t you agree?

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  1. 11 April, 2016 / 4:36 pm

    You know what stops me? The feeling that being a blogger isn’t a recognised ‘business’. I used to go to these all the time when I worked in marketing. Perhaps it’s a confidence thing. Do you go as a blogger?

    I don’t know of any blogger networking groups as such. Perhaps I should start one!

    • Jo Middleton
      12 April, 2016 / 9:52 am

      That’s an interesting point Linda. I do go as a blogger, but I do have to explain how I make money from it! In a way though I quite like that, as I get to educate people, but also most people just end up looking jealous, and like they can’t believe that my ‘job’ is just writing and playing on Twitter! I’ve always found that the sort of skills I can bring to networking groups are actually really valued – lots of small businesses want to know about blogging and social media and they tend to be very interested in what I do.

  2. 13 April, 2016 / 4:59 pm

    I go to a lot of networking things for my day job – my top tip is to work on your elevator pitch. Cliched phrase, but being able to sell yourself/what you do in a couple of sentences makes things easier. My other tip is to force yourself to go but with a goal of speaking to one person. That’s manageable. Just get a drink, make eye contact with the first person you encounter and introduce yourself. Most people probably feel as awkward as you do!

  3. 14 April, 2016 / 11:22 pm

    These are some really good tips – in theory I like to network but get very nervous when attending events or conferences but I know the more I do it the easier it will become

    Laura x

  4. 15 April, 2016 / 9:33 am

    I have never been to one! I always think of it a bit like speed dating in suits ha! xx

    • Jo Middleton
      18 April, 2016 / 9:05 am

      I actually have been to a speed networking event before where you literally sit in rows and get three minutes with each person! It was absolutely exhausting – so much smiling and introducing yourself!

  5. 16 April, 2016 / 8:56 am

    I never used to mind networking events, but over the years I’ve been to less and less and now my confidence has really dropped. It’s hard not to feel intimidated because there are always groups of people and knowing who to approach is always hard…fab tips and I love the sound of that app, I will defo check it out! x

  6. 17 April, 2016 / 1:30 pm

    I used to love networking with work – and found it really rewarding to be able to make lots of connections. It can be a bit overkill sometimes though, everything is pegged as ‘networking’ and I enjoy much more the opportunities to network when it’s coupled with practical stuff that will really benefit everyone after the event is over. Time is precious and it’s always good to know what really is a networking opportunity that will come to something. Great post xo

  7. 17 April, 2016 / 2:31 pm

    oooh great tips JO! will be jotting these down so I don’t forget

  8. 18 April, 2016 / 9:35 am

    I would love to go to a business networking event but i know i would be a jibbering, socially awkward mess! I am working on my confidence though as i have been to a few blogging events and each time, i have managed to speak to more people x

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