I was out for dinner with a couple of friends earlier this week. We were having a conversation about how scary it is nowadays that children are online so much, with access to goodness knows what, and how so much of their social lives revolve around social media.
Not like the good old days of having to sit on the stairs and use the house phone to talk to your friends about all the deadly serious stuff in your life, like which was the best Nirvana album.
“It’s fine though,” said one of my friends, “I have a friend who has teenage daughters and she regularly hacks into their Facebook accounts to see what they’re up to.”
My jaw may have dropped a little bit.
“She hacks into their accounts?!” I said, sounding horrified.
“Yeah, she somehow always manages to find a way in!”
Cue awkward laugh and anxious face from me.
“It’s different though,” she said, trying to back up her friend, “because her younger daughter went through a phase when she was about 15 of going out a lot and getting really drunk…”
Well dur!! That is what being 15 IS. As a parent you surely just have to accept that and get on with things, knowing that they’ll soon enough grow out of it and be a sensible person again?
I was stunned, and said so. “I would never hack into any of my children’s social media accounts!” I said. “Isn’t that just like reading their diary?”
Seriously, I care about my children as much as the next mum, but there is caring and caring. I follow Bee on Twitter and occasionally she pops up in my feed talking about feeling sick or how awesome How I Met Your Mother Is, but I would never, ever go into her account and read things she didn’t want me to read.
Isn’t parenting meant to be about building up a respectful, trusting relationship with your children so that if they do have an issue they really want to share with you that they can come and talk to you face to face about it, or am I just being terribly naive?
Would you ever hack into your child’s social media accounts?