I was talking to a male friend at the weekend about infidelity and he came out with a rather shocking statement.
He said that the only thing that stopped men from cheating on their partners was the possibility of getting caught. He reckoned that if there was a guarantee that the wives and girlfriends would never find out, that ONE HUNDRED PERCENT of men would cheat.
I will say that again just in case you didn’t hear me properly – ONE HUNDRED PERCENT.
Of course he hastily added that he was precluding himself from this figure, (he is married), but actually there isn’t really another group to be in is there? 100% is 100%.
I was shocked, and I said so. “Is there no sense of loyalty?” I asked, possibly naively. “When a man is with a woman he loves isn’t he supposed to lose interest in other women? Or at least not actively pursue them?”
Apparently not. Apparently it’s nature.
“Rubbish,” I argued eloquently, “that’s just a pathetic excuse.”
What made it worse was that this man is a genuine Nice Bloke. He isn’t some kind of terrible womaniser, he’s just normal and nice. Yet here he was stating matter-of-factly that all men are cheaters at heart.
It made me sad. My innocent, romantic self would like to believe that when I finally do meet The One, that he will only have eyes for me, that all other women will pale into insignificance. If not that, then at least that he would have the decency to turn down offers of no strings sex, no matter how sure he was that I would never find out.
Now you may be reading this and thinking ‘it’s probably true to a certain extent, but my husband is different, I’m so lucky’… well let me just skip back a bit for you – ONE HUNDRED PERCENT. I’m not saying they are all doing it, just that apparently they all would be if they knew they could get away with it.
So what do you reckon – is this true?? Please tell me it’s not, it made me so miserable to think it could be.