How important is a first kiss?

When I was about 15, we went on a school trip to see Romeo and Juliet. If you could conjure up an activity as a prelude to a perfect first kiss, surely this would be it? On the way home on the coach, I sat next to a boy from my class, whose name I shall keep to myself just in case.

It was a long journey, and at some point I dozed off. When I woke up, said boy appeared to be stroking my thigh. I kept my eyes closed and hoped that if I could just pretend to be asleep long enough that he would give up. (At 15 I was pretty scared of boys).

I must have drifted off again, because the next time I woke up, it was from a dream that I was having my face licked by a massive, slobbery dog. Except I wasn’t, I was being kissed by the boy. It was such an all-face-consuming kiss, that when he had finished and I was allowed to breathe again, I literally had to wipe my face with my sleeve to dry it. As you can see from the infographic below from e-harmony, men do prefer their kisses moist.

Needless to say this first kiss did not blossom into a beautiful teenage romance.

Years later, when I was slightly less scared of boys, (although still a bit), I tried my hand at online dating, and almost had the perfect first kiss. It was a second date, and we were on our way to the theatre. We were walking across a park, when it started to rain. We ran for the nearest big tree, getting there just before it started to really pour down. I was slightly dishevelled, we were laughing, my back against the tree, his arm up above my head, leaning against the trunk. If it were an episode of Friends, I would have shut my eyes, tipped my head expectantly and we’d have lived happily ever after.

Unfortunately it was not to be. Instead he made us go back out in the rain so as not to be late for the show, and chose to kiss me awkwardly later in a layby instead. D’oh!

A first kiss is one of those crucial make or break points in a relationship – get it wrong and it can be as devastating as discovering your potential partner still shares a bedroom with his mother or votes Tory or something. With over two thirds of women reporting losing interest in someone after a first kiss, it’s important to get it right, so check out the infographic below to swot up on your kissing facts before you dive in. (Hopefully not quite so literally as I had to. Diving equipment might have been useful to be honest).

What do you think – can a first kiss change your feelings about a person? Have you had an amazing first kiss that turned into romance or any horrendous first kiss experiences you’d like to share to make me feel better about mine?


The Importance of the First Kiss [Infographic] – An infographic by the team at Online Dating experts eHarmony




  1. 29 March, 2013 / 11:51 am

    I like the infographic but for me the best kisses are with the right person ;)

    • admin
      29 March, 2013 / 2:19 pm

      Very true. Do you ever wonder though if you might have passed on someone who otherwise might have been perfect, just because of a dodgy first kiss??

  2. 29 March, 2013 / 9:35 pm

    Really enjoyed the article! Is the 1st kiss not over rated? Are we not destined to have a bad kiss 1st time round because of the anticipation and excitement. Love the post though, will have to contact you about writing for me.

    • admin
      1 April, 2013 / 12:41 pm

      I don’t know Grant – is it? You’re probably right in the sense that it SHOULDN’T be so important, but it seems that it is. According to the infographic there are an awful lot of people who end up not in a relationship with someone simply because of a first kiss…

  3. Melody
    19 December, 2015 / 10:37 am

    I love this post! I think first kisses are incredibly important and that you can tell a lot about someone from how they kiss. And a man can definitely become more attractive if he is a good kisser.
    Had the most perfect first kiss earlier this week. Let’s see what happens!

    • Jo Middleton
      21 December, 2015 / 2:13 pm

      Ooooh! A first kiss just this week?!?! How exciting!! Keep me posted – good luck!!

  4. 18 April, 2018 / 1:09 am

    Great article!
    Too much tongue on your first kiss is a definite thumbs down!
    A perfect first kiss should ideally involve mostly lip-to-lip contact.
    If her lips are slightly open and you feel the passion rising quickly, it might be a suitable time to engage the tongue.

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