Men never make passes at girls who wear glasses

Are you a glasses wearer? How do you feel about it?

I wear glasses, and have for over 15 years. I’ve also had two children. Clearly then, I’ve had sex at least twice in my life, so I can vouch for the fact that some men do actually make passes at bespectacled women. Does it put people off though? Do glasses make a difference to how fanciable you find someone?


Would these glasses put you off?

When I was younger I felt pretty uncomfortable about wearing my glasses. In fact, despite having a pair from about the age of 13, I didn’t wear them at school, college or university until I was 19. Needless to say there was an awful lot of squinting involved. Part of this was a crippling self-consciousness that didn’t need fuelling, but mainly it was down to the fact that my glasses were classic NHS prescription specs – I was unpopular enough at school anyway with my geeky ways, I really didn’t need glasses to reinforce the stereotype.

During my late teens and early twenties, I was still pretty vain, and would regularly sacrifice the power of sight on a night out. It  did increase my hit rate, but how much of this was due to me appearing more attractive, and how much was simply that I couldn’t see to make an informed decision? I suspect the latter, along with a good dose of Peach Schnapps and lemonade.

Nowadays I’m more at ease with my short-sightedness, but still from time to time if I’m going somewhere fancy I’ll put in contact lenses instead. They hurt my eyes, and make me blink about 20 times a minute, but for some reason this feels worth it. It only happens about once a month at most, and I’ve bought a stash of daily disposables online, so at least it’s not pricey vanity.

What do you reckon? Have I been unnecessarily vain all my life, or do people really judge a glasses wearing book by its cover?

Photo credit – Paul Stevenson





  1. 29 June, 2012 / 1:12 pm

    My hubby drives me mad by always suggesting I wear contact lenses when we go out socially. I am perfectly happy to wear my glasses (and find them more comfortable) but he obviously thinks I don’t look my best with them on! It makes me feel unattractive when I wear them

    • Mikie
      19 July, 2015 / 1:23 pm

      Whaaaat! No way that is messed up! My gf is supposed to wear glasses but she doesn’t want to. I think glasses make a person have a little more personality, Sorry but think that’s sad that your husband thinks that it’s gonna affect your social life, hey if you’re more comfortable with the glasses go with it. What if you’re putting on contacts and you injure your eyes? What if you’re out and about and you lose one? Would it really be worth it? I for one find women with glasses a bit more interesting,

  2. 29 June, 2012 / 3:49 pm

    I have a couple of friends who wear glasses and they look incredibly sexy. In fact they both think they look odd without them and I definitely agree that they look better with than without. Obviously it depends on the individual and also probably on your level of confidence. And you know what they say, – confidence is very attractive.

  3. 29 June, 2012 / 6:55 pm

    I think women in glasses are wonderful. Of course, their improved eye sight costs me in the end, but I don’t care. They are cool. I love a bookish look.

  4. Mary
    30 June, 2012 / 7:48 am

    My husband calls my glasses my “bond secrectary” look. I don’t need to wear them full time as they are just to correct a mild stigmatism. I assosiate them in my mind with actually doing work, usually academic, I’m not sure I would think to put them on if I was going clubbing. Having said that I do tend to also associate glasses with “the big reveal, booky girl suddenly looks beautiful when she takes them off” so I tend to assume spectacle wearers are pretty.
    On a semi related note, I read an amusing blog post about buying glasses in China the other day. It doesn’t answer any of the questions you asked but is worth reading for the comedy value!

  5. 1 July, 2012 / 12:47 pm

    Muchos empathy. I blogged about my memories of those pink NHS specs I got at 8 years old. Trauma. Never got over it

  6. rinsimpson
    1 July, 2012 / 6:18 pm

    I’m afraid, much as I’d like to big up glasses (which I wore for about 20 years), I think I undoubtedly look better without them (and I’d tried all sorts of styles before my laser eye surgery). My current OH looks at not-so-old photos of me where the only real difference in my looks is that I wore glasses then, and says I look completely different. I’m pretty sure he wouldn’t have been nearly as attracted (in the first instance, of course) if I’d been wearing specs when we met. We all know how important first impressions are…

  7. 4 July, 2012 / 8:18 am

    I love my glasses! I’ve worn glasses since I was 7 so I guess I wasn’t aware too much of the vanity aspect of it at that age. I have to wear glasses all day every day so don’t have a choice but they’ve become part of who I am and I have a lot of men saying they find them very attractive, that I really suit them. I guess I don’t know different though…

  8. Beeface
    5 July, 2012 / 8:07 pm

    Glasses emphasise my chin. I’d rather be blind.

  9. 2 March, 2013 / 7:16 am

    Girls with glasses are sexy. Maybe the men around you need glasses themselves.

  10. 19 July, 2013 / 3:42 pm

    I realise this is an old post, but I couldn’t read it and not reply.

    My fella, the giant man-baby is always asking me to wear my specs, he loves them! When I was around 7-9 years of age I ran around the classroom too fast and ended up falling and whacking myself in my left eye on the corner of those old school chairs they had back in the day. Immediately afterward I developed a lazy eye and had to wear glasses. I ended up with some awful looking pink NHS specs that probably covered 3/4 of my face despite them being for children. I have a very slim face.

    I wore them for the remainder of my primary school days until the opticians said I didn’t have to wear them anymore. My eyesight in that eye still sucks and now I’m back in the realm of glasses for reading. To be honest, I don’t actually wear them very often unless I’m squinting a lot and notice it or along comes a headache. My reason for not wearing them is because of my facial shape. I have a long face which is so slim that glasses pop out the side of my head. I wear teenage glasses and they’re still to big, ha! There’s nothing like looking like you’re wearing novelty glasses when in reality you’re wearing glasses designed for teenagers!

    Can’t say I’ve really noticed that men would rather be attracted to someone without glasses than those with. But what I have noticed is that men are put off by the factor that I have children. I split with the children’s father and did the whole online dating thing since my disability and kiddos mean I didn’t get out too much. What a big mistake!…

    1. Men were put off because I had more than 1 child or have any children at all,
    2. Men were also put off because I have a mobility related disability.
    3. I attract idiots!

    In the end I ended up meeting and falling in love with someone that I’ve known my whole life without knowing it. He went to the same nursery, primary and secondary school as myself and even used to play footie with my older brother. He recognised my surname on Facebook, added me as a friend, we got chatting and he asked me out. The rest is history.

    And to finish my rambling, I think women that wear glasses are just as beautiful, if not more so. They tend to be less bitchy and more of a real friend than those that don’t.

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  12. Catherine
    17 September, 2016 / 6:19 am

    I attract men 75% more Without my glasses…

  13. Amy
    17 October, 2017 / 6:40 pm

    Here’s the blunt truth…if you are pretty and have a nice body, men will think your glasses are sexy on occasion, the whole sexy librarian deal. If you are average looking or have a less desirable body, your glasses will just be one more strike against you. They are not a deciding factor, one way or the other. No ugly shirt will make a beautiful woman ugly, no pretty necklace will make an unattractive woman pretty. If you’re hot, you’re hot; if you’re not, you’re not.

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