My return to the world of online dating

This week I have spent a significant amount of time on Sarah Beeny’s dating website My Single Friend.

I’m not looking to get rid of New Boyfriend already, (what with being rather fond of him and everything) – I’m actually looking for a special someone for my friend Jacqueline.*

The idea of My Single Friend is that you get a friend to recommend you and the whole thing is slightly less like a painful self-marketing exercise. The principle is sound, but don’t be fooled. It’s basically a way for your single friend to get you to do all the work for them.

After an agonising hour trying to sum Jacqueline up in 700 characters or less, I was ready for the fun bit – laughing at other people’s pictures and weird hobbies. Looking for a man for someone else though is HARD. My usual method involves just clicking on the people who look hot in their pictures, but you can’t do this when you person you’re searching on behalf of has such different tastes. Well you can, but it’s distracting and doesn’t really get you very far in your proper search.

What’s been particularly hard though is knowing that at any point I could be discarding a potential soul mate, based purely on some arbitrary criteria such as age or location. I can’t help but think that if I had been looking for New Boyfriend online I would never have found him. And that would have been very sad.

So far we’ve had one message from a man with a scary, glass-eyed stare, who enjoys playing on his Xbox 360, PS3 and Wii. “I also got a motor bike a honda shadow which I am currently learning to drive. I also like to read books mostly stephen king and thomas harris and I been to france and scotland when I was younger.” Apparently he has never had a girlfriend. Fancy that.

As much as we want to keep an open mind, we won’t be keeping it that open…

*Jacqueline is not her real name – I didn’t want to cause any embarrassment. When I was little though I always wanted to be called Jacqueline. Odd.



  1. 29 April, 2011 / 12:29 pm

    Your friend lets you find dates for her? Wow, she must really trust you! I’m married, but even if I wasn’t, I don’t think I’d trust anyone to fix me up!

    I don’t think much of the punctuation / grammar in that guy’s ad, but the rest of it sounds cool to me. My husband is a biker / gamer that reads sci-fi and horror. He knows how to use punctuation though :)

    • 29 April, 2011 / 12:38 pm

      It was definitely the grammar (or lack of it) that put us off – you’d think you’d make an effort to spell check if it meant you might mean the woman of your dreams wouldn’t you?

  2. 29 April, 2011 / 5:29 pm

    what happened to the good old fashioned go out and meet somebody? I’ll just stay married its (maybe …lol) easier

  3. 29 April, 2011 / 9:01 pm

    Online dating seems like a great idea, but I’d probably not feel like that if I had to do it. I have a cousin Jacqueline who once told my sister, “No you can’t have a sweety, I only have 17 left!!!!” I used to want to be called Stephanie or Samantha!

  4. Jacqueline*
    3 May, 2011 / 8:03 am

    Its DIRE! I am really not sure why I agreed to this… It was supposed to be fun. Its not. Perhaps I am just not cut out for the world of online dating *sighs*

    • 3 May, 2011 / 11:12 am

      Hmmm… I’m not sure I ever claimed it was going to be FUN. I think I said something about it being an investment, or thinking of it as a job – it can be pretty demoralising at times. Think of the babies though….

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  6. 6 May, 2014 / 1:09 pm

    Welcome. It has been very fun for me. I love meeting new people online

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