I was chatting to a friend the other day, a friend who has known me since before I had children (i.e. a long time) and who has recently had her first baby. She also reads my blog. As I always imagined would be the case, she is a completely natural mother and absolutely loves it. When she was talking about her baby though on the phone to me, she sounded almost apologetic – “I’m sure the novelty will wear off soon,” she said, “and I’ll feel more like you do about it.”
I looked back through my posts and wondered if perhaps they were a little negative. I guess it is the nature of my theme that I am going to be venting frustrations, sounding off to an imaginary husband, and that I will tend therefore to be writing about things that have annoyed me. I don’t want this to be the case all the time though, and have been planning for a while to write something terribly wholesome and positive. Honest.
So I have been spurred into action this week by a tag from Mari at Mari’s World, asking me to write about Shiny Happy Things – the stuff that is guaranteed to make you smile. Obviously my first thought is of sitting quietly somewhere with a cup of coffee and the papers, but in an effort to nurture my maternal side, I am going to focus on the things my children do that make me love them extra hard. Here goes…
I love when Belle is in my bed with me (which until recently was pretty much every night) and she strokes my leg with her feet in her sleep.
I love it when Bee comes home from somewhere and she is really chatty – either because something has annoyed her or inspired her – and she talks non stop to me for ages about it.
I love that Belle is only seven but she has a fantastic sense of humour. She can be so sharp, so quick-witted, and very sarcastic. I know it is the lowest form of wit, but it is the basis of our whole family sense of humour, so it’s important Belle gets up to speed.
I love it when me and Bee go to the cinema on our own and laugh at all the same bits of the film, (often the bits no-one else is laughing at), and Bee makes me buy her a gigantic, hideous blue slush.
I love it that Belle is so self assured and confident, that she will happily just say hello to random strangers and ask them questions about themselves.
I love it when I look at either of them, when they are doing something completely normal, not knowing I am looking, and I think to myself ‘gosh, I made them. I didn’t just physically make them, but I helped to make them into the people they are, I shaped them.’ It can be a massively daunting sense of responsibility, but with that comes a huge sense of pride.
Yes well, that’s quite enough maternal positivity for one day.
It’s easy to get bogged down by the negative – hurrah for the good things. xx
Ooooh, my first meme. I think I understand what I have to do. Thank you ! How exciting, its great learning something new isn’t it. Have a good Sunday.
Thanks for the tag… My first meme too! I’ve seen this about loads and I think all the blogs I read have already done it, so kinda wrote as a list.. and added a kids blast from the past feel good tv show video on there… always makes me feel happy when I hear the theme tune!!!!!
P.s. I’m not an alcoholic!
My first meme too – we’re all meme virgins! Looking forward to writing a new post. x
Oh I feel all positive after that. Hadn’t realised just how much I like wellies.
So here’s my first meme post on Shiny Happy Things – things that make me smile http://wp.me/pzGip-zp
I’m similar to you – I feel like I more often than not paint the bleakest picture of motherhood and prefer to be sarcastic rather than wholesome. And like you, it’s mainly a great avenue for me to vent. But I loved this post. Your girls sound adorable and I love my boys too for many of the same reasons.
Thanks Nicola! It’s so easy to make your kids sound like monsters in the name of comedy isn’t it? Glad you appreciated my attempt at something more positive :-)