It can be so difficult to balance everything in your life sometimes. Whether it is the kids starting back to school or the washing machine blowing up (yes that actually happened) life can be hectic.
In the midst of all this chaos it can be all too easy to forget about the people who cause you the least amount of stress.
The old saying “the squeaky wheel gets the oil” is so true because those people who occupy your mental headspace tend to get most of your attention.
It is in this scenario that it can be easy to forget the most important woman in your life.
These 4 tips will help you show your mum just how much she means to you, even if you don’t always have time to show it to her.
Even just thinking about doing these things will go a long way to letting her know she is in your thoughts and that despite all the hectic things that occupy your life she remains in your thoughts.
Sometimes it can be all too easy to put things off and reschedule dates and meetings. Days can lead to weeks and weeks often lead to months.
Before you know it months have gone by and that coffee morning you had planned with your mum is now a distant memory.
The point is that if it is really important to you, you will make time.
Imagine if you had a friend who always kept rescheduling you over and over again. How would you feel?
You Can Change
Sometimes improving the relationship you have with your mum requires a major change. This change must come from within and you should think about what you can do or what you should do to change the way you interact with your mother.
Change is difficult but it is so often worth it.
Just take my advice and don’t expect change to happen instantly or even over the midterm. You should expect real change to take time.
I often believe that change, in terms of the way we treat ourselves and others, is an long term and ongoing process.
It is definitely not something that you can do once and forget about.
Change, like you, is a work in progress and you should never forget that.
Make a Fuss (In a Good Way)
There is no better way to make your mum feel special and remind her of just how special she is to you by making a fuss of her. Whether it is on Mother’s Day or on your mom’s birthday, you should really put some effort into making sure that she feels special.
Does she like a particular restaurant or type of food? Maybe cook her a special meal and invite all the family around.
The point is you do not have to spend a lot of money to make a fuss and you can be sure that even a little effort will be greatly appreciated by your mum.
Be an active listener
So many arguments and disputes can be resolved by listening. Not just sitting back and listening to what the other person says, no.
Instead you should be an active listener.
Really take the time to hear what the other person is saying and understand where they are coming from.
Practice this when it comes to communicating with your mum and you can be sure that the overall quality of your communication with her will greatly improve.
You will most likely find too that she begins to reciprocate and starts to actively listen to you and your opinions a lot more too.
If you practice each of these 4 tips I have no doubt that your relationship with your mother will improve. As someone who has been there for you through thick and thin you owe it to your mother to make these small adjustments.
As they often say, from small seeds big trees grow, so take these small steps and see for yourself what a dramatic impact it has on your relationship with your mum.